Today, I watched “The Adjustment Bureau” with some amazing girls on my floor and I absolutely loved it! What an interesting twist on love and God’s plan for our lives.
However, this blog isn’t about the movie, but about something that I mentioned during the movie, though my outburst occurred because of a scene in the movie. After Matt Damon and Emily Blunt’s first kiss in the men’s bathroom, Damon and his friend were discussing it and Damon says that he didn’t kiss her, she definitely kissed him. And that’s when I yelled out at the screen “You definitely kissed her...you went the 90%!” and then later I said something about the 90-10 always working. And for those of you who aren’t picking up on the reference, it’s from “Hitch”.
Which is my point exactly! Everything that we know about love comes from media. Everything that we expect love to be is fashioned through screenplays and stereos. And I am no different. I talk with several girls about love, boys, and relationships, and in most cases, I can think of a movie scene, plot, or line that almost perfectly aligns with their situation. Having been single my entire life, expect for that one week in VBS when I was 5, I rely on information that others pass onto me...but what if my information is incorrect?
Love isn’t just a movie script or song lyric. Love is not a pattern that you can just follow for every situation; love isn’t an equation that you just plug in the numbers and get the right outcome. Love is complex and, in most cases, irrational. Love isn’t sex. Sure, it’s called ‘making love’, but sex is not, in itself, LOVE, it’s an ACT of love, and I’m tired of the world telling me that if I’m not sleeping with him, then I don’t love him. BS! BS! BS! And the thought of the young ladies who have been bought with this slogan just shreds my heart into pieces. How will these ladies ever be able to receive Christ’s love if this is what they believe ‘love’ to be?
The truth is that we all just long to be loved. Jesus said that the 2 greatest commandments are to love the Lord with all your heart and to love your neighbor as yourself. Love. (Matthew 22:37-39) We wanna be loved! We desire love so badly, that we’re willing to do just about anything to get it. It’s a hunger that everyone feels, though our appetites are different. Every person recognizes love in a different way. If you ask 10 people what they think love is in one sentence, I guarantee that you’ll get 10 completely different sentences. Ask me and I’ll tell you that I think love is knowing that you will never ever be alone. Even though I’m not in a romantic relationship, I don’t feel alone. I am perfectly content and satisfied in the love of Christ and I always will be. A man won’t define me or my love, only God does. My identity is in Christ and that is the message that I want to share with every girl that I meet. God, You are enough for me.
The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread. ~Mother Teresa
We are not of this world...so let’s not be caught up in it :)
Love God, Love People.
